I know when I was late in to my pregnancy with my daughter everyone said to me: you better sleep now, you will never sleep when the baby arrives. Or, enjoy your free time now, soon it will be a thing of the past. Or make sure you have couple alone time, and do the things you have always wanted to do. Once the baby comes you will have no time for yourself to do anything.
At the time I really didn’t know what they meant but it did sound quite dramatic. If parenting was so horrible why was everyone jumping in to it?
I knew then that I was going to make it different for me somehow. Even at that stage I attributed their frustration and somewhat lackluster attitude a major result of excessive sleep deprivation.
It is like I knew without being a parent at that stage that it was pretty simple. Work hard at getting your baby to sleep, so you can sleep and wake up each day as a functional happy human being. If you were happy then no doubt your baby would be happy too.
It’s perhaps the reason that I went in to this profession in the first place. When my daughter was born I was obsessed with routines and getting her to sleep just so I could sleep myself and regain some control to my life. I really saw the difference both in her and myself when we were feeling well rested.
Majority of my work is helping parents understand this simple equation: help your baby to sleep so you can sleep. For me it made sense but for others it’s not so simple. During my consultations I help families understand why they are not enjoying parenting, why their constant sleep deprivation is affecting them, their relationship and their life in general and most importantly show them that things don’t need to be this way. Just because you have a baby it doesn’t mean years of no sleep.
I know there is so much literature out there to the contrary and many parents have resigned themselves to this fact but I think that’s a shame.
I am by no means saying that sleep training your baby is easy. It is possibly one of the most difficult things you will need to go through. The emotional and mental exhaustion alone can be hard and the initial routine can be difficult to adopt for non routine parents. My clients have experienced success in terms of achieving healthy sleep patterns for their baby and therefore, themselves. Having seen the benefits to their family first-hand, I’m confident they would do it all again with other babies they may have.
If you and your family are undergoing mild or severe sleep deprivation and you are hesitating with whether to start sleep training, give me a call and we can discuss your options.
The programs are flexible and tailored made to your individual family needs.
Every family is different and every baby is unique and reading a text book may not necessarily be what’s right for you.
I now know that some of what those people told me when I was pregnant held some truth. But I am a proven fact of not letting the course of parenting beat me and I spend my working life helping others see this truth too.
Waking up in the morning after a good night’s sleep makes the difference to my parenting style each day and I know it will for you too.